Single Christian Men Don’t Marry (#1)

The search terms that come up the most in the blog statistics are some variation of the phrase on the title. There are a couple of posts in the blog history on this topic, which I believe hold up well in that regard. But it’s interesting to see what people are talking about. We’ll take the good along with the bad.

The first article in the search is one entitled Do Christian Men WANT to Get Married?, which talks of the respective desires of men and women to get married. The “Why aren’t men marrying up the sluts?” theme is there, if not subtly. Deborah Watkins says:

Yes. Women are more eager to connect with their future spouses. Marriage is the next big step that our women look forward to! They have successful and rewarding careers, higher education and marriage is the next logical evolution.

We see the typical feminist plans in place. Education, career, and then marriage. Let’s guess the age they’re finally investing themselves into marriage…oh about 30? That would be archaic in this day and age to expect them to be looking when they have nothing more to offer than what a man already has but anger and bitterness now wouldn’t it? To continue on what Ms. Watkins had to say:

Women are into the wedding, dress and concepts associated with marriage and sometimes downplay the real deal (character and incompatibility issues) associated with relationships.

Men are much more cautious of marriage because of the high divorce rate. Men scrutinize every aspect of marriage because they want it to last forever and they believe that most people marry too quickly. One person said “that they would rather remain happy and single than be married and miserable.

I find this quote very interesting. It’s nothing different from most of us already know, but it’s truth. Women are into the wedding, and the marriage day itself, while men are looking past that. It seems odd as well (yet consistent) that I recently found a comments section with a number of women complaining about how men won’t go ahead and commit to marriage. Given my values, I agree with the specific premise of it (the choice of cohabitation). Of course, the vapid feminism permeates the post so it’s never pointed out by the author that it takes two to tango with the living together thing, as well as when the issue of premarital sex comes up. The big bad evil menz always push the poor innocent woman into sinning and she’s never brought to account.

It seems that women are committed to the marriage day, while men are committed to the marriage.

Women want the big day, but they don’t want the commitment that marriage entails and will leave the moment they become unhaaaaapy. Yet it’s the men who are railed on because they won’t commit at the drop of the hat to the woman’s wishes for the big day, yet it’s the women who demonstrate a marked incapability of committing to marriage once they’re in them. Of course, you’ll never see anyone in Churchianity (or the likes of Gregoire) address this one. Of course, they have a mighty painful plank pulling job to perform themselves in this issue.

Kelly Mikel Williams gives her lament on men not marrying up the sluts or whatever:

Most men seem to be content in their singleness, whereas most women seem to have no contentment whatsoever . . . One young lady in particular mentioned to me that she has suggested to a young man that since neither of them was getting any younger, that they should date so that they could eventually marry and have kids.

Another saved, sanctified, and Holy Ghost filled young lady said that she is considering moving to another state because she can’t find a man where she lives. The men, on the other hand aren’t watching the clock, nor are they considering moving to find a mate. In fact, I don’t know if they are even looking at the women.

It’s typical to blame the men always, and they never look at the women. If women are that dissatisfied with their lives, it will come through. But they never look at the quality of the women, do they? Paul had something to say about contentment as well. But then again, women seem to not be content, whether they’re married or single. A man sees this, and will recognize that she will be looking to him to blame for her lack of contentment. But, you’re just going to have to learn to be content with your cats as a spinster now, won’t you?

Shanick Moore seems to present a little more realistic picture as it relates to relative commitment:

The majority of the men I talk with want to be married and want to have children, but they go through a different process and preparation to getting to the point of marriage. They have to know without a doubt that the woman is the “one,” and they have no problem with taking their time before making that decision. Most men also want to be financially secure or have completed a certain level of success prior to getting married
. . .
Many women arrive at the “I’m ready” phase without really understanding all that is needed to build the type of foundation necessary to make a marriage successful.

Men do wait, see the picture, and see if it’s right for them. That includes the quality of the woman. Women, however just are jumping in. It seems that they really don’t care about being committed to making the marriage successful, do they? Or even making themselves a good and desirable wife so a wise and discerning man will want to marry her?

With the poor choices available all over of women who aren’t fit for marriage, and others who can’t commit to marriage once they’re in them, isn’t it natural why men don’t want to marry?