In “Men are Logical And Women Are Emotional”, Deep Strength made the attempt to explain the differences between men and women. There is really much to say that is problematic in this. In the comments, Bobbye focused on the unitive aspect of marriage in the Scriptures involved. Marriage is a physical representation of the spiritual reality of community in Christ with His Church. This is reflected in the reality that “a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh”.
Literally, traditional feminism has done a lot of damage in the Church, and one of those things is the concept of community. Community was the primary unit of consideration in most cultures, and is the primary common language of Scripture. Understanding this is literally one of the “Red Pills” behind Scripture since there is so much that is misunderstood when the individual is paramount over the community. Judas killed himself literally because he made himself a man without a community. This “oneness” behind both Christ and His Church and the husband and wife is literally considered to be self-evident when it comes to Scripture and those cultures, but it’s been literally eliminated in modern understanding. People in the West don’t understand why the societies of the Middle East hold centuries-long grudges for this reason: The community was slighted and not the individual. The individual is subsumed into the community, and the identity is the community. This idea comes out in Scriptures such as this:
There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all. (Ephesians 4:4-6)
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28)
While there is much more to say on the topic in general of the unitive function of community, a summary is suitable for now. Suffice it to say, the destruction of community and the creation of division is Satan’s master work. Unity in Christ, and lack of division is stressed time and again and the opposite of these things is warned of time and again:
Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. (Romans 16:17)
These six things doth the Lord hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren. (Proverbs 6:16-19)
This all said, the problem behind the post (and traditional feminism as a whole) is that the culture of differentiation is there. Bobbye brought out a good culturally feminist example of it: Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. I consider the two together because the post functions as a good foundation *for* traditional feminism. As Deep Strength writes:
“Churchianity is feminized precisely because they believe that men and women are the same (they believe the lies of feminism).”.
One of the reasons why I have tried to be very fastidious about definitions of terms on my blog is that these kind of misunderstandings lead to very false conclusions. As I wrote here, using Podles as a source, feminism is really female-supremacism.
To be able to distinguish one group as superior to another and create biases, you have to start assigning qualities to each of them, and then judging the values behind those qualities as superior or inferior.
While men can experience emotions, men have a blind spot in that they don’t have that straight off emotional filter or “sensibility.” . . . Therefore, to make up for this blind spot God created women to have that capacity to be a helpmeet to her husband in that regard. This agrees heavily with traditional sex roles.
This could be construed as a pro-feminist statement: Men lack the ability of “emotional filtering” or “sensitivity” that women have, therefore women are superior and men are inferior. This is not inconsistent with other typical feminist literature:
Many feel that women are poised to take over leadership roles in the workplace because of their superior social skills and emotional intelligence [the popular buzzterm used behind what Deep Strength describes].
All of the groups listed in Galatians 3:28 and more have similar biases behind them. As described, traditional feminism got its start via false doctrine, which women more naturally fit to. As Podles states (1), “innate or quasi- innate differences between the sexes cannot by themselves account for the increase in women’s interest in Christianity or the decrease in men’s interest.” More accurately, the creation of false doctrine breaking the community up into individuals, and the preference of certain qualities over others:
In the New Testament, the bride is the Church. Even worse, this allegory was taken up into the increasing humanization
of the relationship of the Christian and Christ, and the individual Christian person, body and soul, came to be seen as the bride of Christ. Thus, sensuality and spirituality joined hands. (2)
As described before, the individualization of the Christian, coupled with eroticism (replacement of the Spiritual with the flesh) led the woman to be considered more favored, and considered more morally upright and closer to God. This, coupled with the incorrect view of what is man or woman, has led to the model of feminism that stays with us through to today.
So what becomes the answer? Let us ponder the nature of the individual and community. What does it take to subsume one’s self into community? Dying to self. The theme is all throughout Scripture:
I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)
And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. (Galatians 5:24-25)
This is especially insightful when it comes to marriage. I am not anything special because I am a man. Any woman out there isn’t anything special because she is a woman. To think different is pride and arrogance. It’s not about your spouse or you, it’s about Christ and submitting to Him. This is the model both for the Church and for a marriage. No one is better than anyone else because they are different. The Father is not better than the Son and the Son is not better than the Holy Spirit. All the same value, yet different in roles. The flesh will always see differences and create division and the resulting conflict, hence the drive of feminists to be seen as equal in role. Those that live in the Spirit will crucify the flesh. To truly give God glory in a marriage (or in the Church), it is literally required to be one flesh. To do that requires putting away of self.
May God get the glory in all things!
(1) The Church Impotent, by Leon J Podles p 102.
(2) ibid p 104-105.