Lessons From The Single Missionary Man

I will leave conclusions and discussions to the reader.

Since I really haven’t seen any and have the time at the moment, I thought I’d go ahead and offer some I had on thinking about it after writing this post, as it relates to this post and the original.

It seems that the major question that would have needed to be asked by Piper, and the question that points out his logical inconsistency of the original article is:

“How many single men directly go into missionary work and stay that way?”

This little testimony I posted goes to the average experience of a missionary who is a single man. If the native women are throwing themselves at them for a better life, this presents a huge impediment to the work in the ways the individual I talked to described. In this case, most single men will realize that the dynamics of how marriage has seen in the world (no feminism) would necessitate that it would be better for them to be married.

Then couple that with the general desire that most men will have to be married, and they won’t remain single for long, and hence will be counted within that “married” group in Piper’s statistics much more than being single.

To go to Deep Strength’s post, the problem indicated there is one of imputing nefarious motives where none are found. As I pointed out before, if “Women in need are worthy of support, but men are not.”, then I would have expected both his opportunities to solicit donations and his donations amount to go up upon being married, but they did not (the most shocking part of the conversation to me given Piper and the things I read in other blogs over the time I’ve been blogging).

If anything, Piper is denoting a bias with answering the question that Deep Strength is falling into as well. How many single men out there will both feel a call to God’s mission in their life, and to be married? The answer to this is “very few”.

However, as the church most definitely actively pushes men away from Christ, and actively does not teach women to be good wives and mothers, as a result, “Churches tend to push women into ministry and the mission field in droves”. Consequently, it could be said that the church pushes men away from marriage and the mission field. And as I (in my past blog), Deep Strength, and others have proven, Piper and others actively push men away from marriage and the mission field.

Though, from my talk with the (former) single missionary, the most beneficial part of being a single missionary is that a man’s heart is set on God’s mission enough that when he does seek a wife, he unconsciously self-selects himself into a proper God-structured marriage. He will not throw aside his mission for a wife, which is what most all Christian women will expect, and almost every man does when he marries. The likelihood that he will throw aside the proper God, and cast himself into eternal hellfire by taking his wife as his God, Lord, and Savior will be diminished as well, both by his heart for mission and the fact he is (likely) far away from a church culture like the American one, which all but assures that.

In conclusion, I will say that seeking out answers to this was quite instructive and often illustrates how off (and simple minded) a lot of these post in blog world end up being.

Single Missionary Man

Churches/families/others tend to support women more than men with monetary donations for missions. Women in need are worthy of support, but men are not.

FWIW, I had an opportunity as prompted by this post to ask someone I know who was a single man in the mission field (he ultimately married, so he’s been both single and married while doing this) about some of the issues involved here. The main question I asked was whether he found his mission work impeded in any way by being a single man. This means if he found he was “more effective” in reaching people as a married man, as well as whether it affected his ability to solicit donations from churches or the amounts. This is what he relayed:

1. He stated that the above quote is false in his experience. No doors were opened after he was married in terms of ability to solicit and he did not experience more financial giving after he was married. It seems people judge more on the work being done than the status of the person doing the work. Of course, this is only one data point – a comparison between what he received as a single man versus what a single woman in a comparable mission field has received would be more useful.

2. However, what he did notice in solicitations was more of a personal conversational interest which reflects more of a well-being concern, stemming from what has been noted time and time again on numerous blogs.

What did change for him from a being a single man to being married is this:

1. Being an American (and otherwise very unremarkable in every other measure), he was an alpha in the manospherian parlance, so the native women were continually throwing themselves at him in hopes he would marry them and bring them to America with him. He counted this as a major handicap in his ability to do the work he was sent to do.

2. He noted the usual concern (well noted everywhere) of a single man being alone with a (possibly) married woman in a situation and the resulting appearance of evil, and the real need to be sure he would not be placed into that position, especially considering #1 and the possibility that some of those native women would be married.

3. Then there was the usual case of being alone and having to gain enough friendship and trust from some of the natives in case he walked into a situation where he needed to have someone watch his back (think possible unsafe/violent situations).

I will leave conclusions and discussions to the reader.

Your First Days As A Christian

Questions asked about your questions upon first becoming a Christian.

While I have some more work to do in organization before I can post more, I had a project put upon my heart by both my evaluation of the old blog and a couple of incidents that have happened here in person. While I haven’t gotten a formal post completed to replace the prior one, this post will lend a hint as to a direction I aim to take with this blog. Part of that seemed to lend to some good discussion, so I thought I would place this here. My hope is that it does…

Note that since I still have extremely limited time to tend to blog-related issues promptly, that I have set moderation on all comments. Those that know me from the old blog will know that (in the scope of this blog), I will allow just about anything as long as it’s not generally disruptive.

Think back to when you first became a Christian.

1. How prepared were you on the natural “What Now?” question after you opted to follow Christ?

2. Were there any questions you had that were largely unaddressed?

3. Were (are?) there any terms that you regularly heard in the course of a service/study/small group that were largely assumed or unaddressed as to their definitions?

Welcome To This Blog

This is the post excerpt.

Hello everyone to this new blog. While this post won’t be as complete as I would like (for now – I’ll go back to edit it soon), the main purpose of this blog is to serve as a more personal outlet than the The Society of Phineas did where I can put things outside of my current blogging plans when the mood strikes.

While you will see some content that would have gone onto that blog, along with some formal re-edits of some of the old material that did go on the blog, you’ll see much more from my personal interests. My goal with both the old blog and the new one is to put God solely to the forefront.

But more or less, you never know what you might see here. Hope you stick around and see what comes along. 🙂