Submission In Traditional Marriage

I found this comic at another non-porn secular site. Despite the BDSM and homosexual overtones, it describes the typical dynamic of submission in traditional marriage when it comes to traditional feminism. I sought a source and found it to come from an erotic comic blog (be warned if you follow the link).

Anyway, I found it too good to pass up as commentary. Besides there was nothing objectionable beyond what was stated. Just imagine the blonde to be a wife, and the brunette to be a husband and it nails Marriage 2.0 perfectly.

submission-comic

“I have this fantasy of being a loving wife and mother who submits to her husband. Want to court me?”

“I’m interested, but what is it to you to submit to your husband?”

“I’m submissive in the sense that I don’t want to do any work or take any responsibility. So to dominate me, you’ll just need to do everything I want. Usually before I know I want it.”

“So, when you say ‘I’m submissive’, you mean ‘I’m lazy and demanding’ ”

Nailed it.

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Prejudice Is The Problem

Previously, the idea of the burden of judgment was brought up. The burden is such that we are too easily influenced in terms of the penalty or even executing that penalty. This is illustrated in the wisdom that has evolved in the justice system where jury, sentence, and execution are all divided so that no one person decides these things. I heard the question of what the punishment will be by more than one juror, and the only proper answer was the old phrase “that’s above our pay grade”. Just like deciding guilt was above the judge’s pay grade, and execution is above both the jury and judge’s pay grade. In such a system when it is righteous, it recognizes our weaknesses – our tendency for blood lust, and our tendency to be lenient to those we identify with. That said, none of it is easy and in the light of judgment of conscience, no one claimed that it was anything other than “very hard”.

Justice: Balanced and Blind (Source: Wikipedia.org)
Justice: Balanced and Blind (Source: Wikipedia.org)

Righteous judgment is a burden, which primarily involves objectivity, and impartiality. Scripture bears this out in spades. Firstly, it speaks of waiting to make up your mind until you’ve heard the whole story:

He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him. (Proverbs 18:13)

I was a father to the poor: and the cause which I knew not I searched out. (Job 29:16)

Doth our law judge any man, before it hear him, and know what he doeth? (John 7:54)

The other issue to bring to light is impartiality in terms of not holding favor to one party for other reasons than the case at hand.

Moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating covetousness; . . . And let them judge the people at all seasons: and it shall be, that every great matter they shall bring unto thee, but every small matter they shall judge: so shall it be easier for thyself, and they shall bear the burden with thee. (Exodus 18:21-22) [the concept of the multi-tiered judicial system]

Ye shall do no unrighteousness in judgment: thou shalt not respect the person of the poor, nor honor the person of the mighty: but in righteousness shalt thou judge thy neighbour. (Leviticus 19:15)

These things also belong to the wise. It is not good to have respect of persons in judgment. (Proverbs 24:23)

Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. (John 7:24)

Justice is supposed to be completely impartial, but is also the place where the righteous are defended against the wicked (Psalm 82:2-4), especially the righteous weak against the wicked powerful. Righteous justice is the place where equality reigns. No matter what place you come from, or what you are. Impartiality is so prized that we were not supposed to talk to anyone else involved in the trial, nor discuss the case before the deliberations with the jury or talk about it period before the verdict was handed down.

If you followed this blog, you know where this is going. I mentioned in the previous post that this was an alleged pedophile.

This happened to be a woman.

Part of judging objectively with others is not bringing your prejudices to the party. When I talked about what I was doing, I left out the sex of the person as I should (and pushed myself to during the presentation of the case). It’s notable that two different people automatically interjected the word “he”. Women are good and men are bad.

So a woman could NEVER do such a thing. Right? Right?

This question blared in my mind during the trial. Is this woman being treated the same as if it were a man in that chair? If this woman is guilty, will she be sentenced the same as if she is a man and not get the p**** pass? If the victim were not a young girl, would it have even been considered?

Women are chaste, angelic beings who are closer to Godwho could never do evil things, at least not without being pushed. Men are chattel put on this earth to provide and protect for women as penance for the evil sin of being born a man.

Prejudices like what I encountered above, are what men are running into with marriage, and what are creating the buzzsaw of the family courts. Prejudices like this are what is driving rape culture, where all men are seen as potential rapists. Prejudices like this are what causes men to not be seen as fathers and women as “natural mothers”. Prejudices like this are what causes the family courts to preserve the role of the husband in “traditional marriage” by requiring child support no matter what, but not requiring visitation of the children in return. Prejudices like this make people see a difference between what family courts do and traditional marriage. These prejudices are what causes so many blue-pill truths to stand, even in the vaunted manosphere. Unfortunately, prejudice is getting formed in the other direction, as well.

Prejudices like this color many of our judgments, and to be righteous it requires us to eliminate them. Being in these circles for three years found an interesting investigation into such matters. As discussed before, by necessity of this world, we cast judgments on many things. The two I mentioned failed in righteous judgment, as do many others. They did not hear the case fully, and by prejudice automatically assumed it was a man on trial.

Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. (Matthew 7:1-2)

While discussed before, this verse found an interesting personification, that can be extended to any case and situation:

If I am in that defendant’s chair, would I want me as a juror, thinking the way I am?

My conscience was clean after the trial was over. I don’t believe I treated her any less nor any harsher because she was a woman. And while the case brought visions of Solomon to mind, I believe the right decision was arrived upon by this twelve. The Judge will be the one to decide all things in His appointed time, but He will in His loving-kindness, as the best possible job was done in that jury room.

The Burden of Judgment

One of the interesting things that I’ve been involved with in my “busy” times is serving time on a jury for a trial. While I won’t talk much about the details (they’re mostly not important), what I plan to talk about is a number of spiritual lessons that came to the forefront as I did this.

Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished: But the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men. But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. (2 Peter 3:6-9)

This is the passage that first struck me upon hearing the situation after being selected. We attribute certain attributes to the God of the Old Testament that we don’t in the New Testament simply because of our own fallen natures, even though God was always the same, yesterday, today, and forever. We expect swift retribution when we are wronged. We even thirst for blood when we see people who are like us that we perceive are wronged. I saw these things in spades in the process of voir dire and in talking with others about what happened after the fact. We assign ourselves onto God in everything. But God is not like that.

Say unto them, As I live, saith the Lord GOD, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked; but that the wicked turn from his way and live: turn ye, turn ye from your evil ways; for why will ye die, O house of Israel? (Ezekiel 33:11)

I can say personally while I know people who would take pleasure in “giving that lawbreaker what they deserve”, I definitely didn’t and no one who made it into that jury did. Anyone who has any understanding of God wouldn’t. Because He doesn’t thirst to punish people. Once I realized that I was going to represent one-twelfth of the decision that might put a person in a prison cell for years (not to mention the stigma of being a sex offender), I started realizing in a very personal way the burden that judgment represents, and why announced judgments of God always have that word associated with them.

Executing judgment is very hard.

Most all of us said that when the judge asked us at the end. Especially when you consider the burden required for righteous judgment. Perhaps one of the things that would have made me feel the burden more in this case than in many others is being aware of the gravity of the situation from a worldly standpoint. Note, we judge all the time in all things. We are never told to not judge at all, but to judge righteously. This world, this life, and the way it is requires judgment.

And the Lord passed by before him, and proclaimed, The Lord, The Lord God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abundant in goodness and truth, Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. (Exodus 34:6-7)

God hates this burden and this consequence so much that out of His love, He has sent His only begotten Son, to shed His blood and bear the judgment for each and every one of us, if we only may repent.

We have the tendency as to either not take this gift at all, or not respect the gift and thumb our noses at God and turn the shoulder to Him with regards to how to live life. Shall we continue in sin? God forbid!

Shall we take Him lightly simply because by His love He has chosen to give us every opportunity to avoid the just eternal punishment? Mind you, not just for our sakes, but for His? Judgment is referred to as God’s strange work, because He really doesn’t want to do it, and consequently does it rarely.

It would be wise to not mistake God’s long suffering and kindness for weakness. Because He will for the sake of His people who have honored His name and walked in righteousness, if He must. The answer in 2 Peter is not to live at ease before God in your own ways, following after yourself, but to surrender yourself to Him and His ways:

Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? (2 Peter 3:11-12)