Marriage and Child Alpha

One of the things pointed out in the definition of principles of traditional feminism is the idea that the results of feminism on women involve female infantilization. While the concept itself has not been explored much here beyond its existence, understanding that a woman has been morally conditioned to avoid any kind of responsibility with the blessing of society is incumbent to understanding the red pill of relationships. As described:

(2013-10-23) feminist-model

When you allow a young woman to remain undisciplined and shield her from the consequences of her own wrong actions, rationalizing them to be right, you get a feral woman. When you raise a young woman to feel entitled to have men shoulder all her responsibilities for her, you get a woman that hasn’t grown up. When girls aren’t trained up in the way they should go before God by doting fathers worshiping their daughters, you get the perpetuation of feminism.

To a certain extent, almost all grown women remain children in some respect. In this respect, a man does not seek an equal adult partner in traditional marriage, but Child Alpha – with the expectation that he must provide for her, care for her and see that she is not harmed by her own actions (this is those “traditional sex roles” coming out). As stated, this is the facet of tradcon feminism that modern feminism has sought most to eliminate, so it becomes hard for us to see this fully (this was more fully visible about 100 years ago).

Chiefly, this has to do with physical and moral responsibilities, which are still standing. A man must unconditionally provide for a woman, even if she can provide for herself. If not a specific man, the government must do it, thereby making all men pay. A woman must never be made to take responsibility for her own actions. A man must change his own flat while a woman gets out and waits for a man to do it. Of course, a woman never sins or is at fault for anything by her absolute moral authority. If a husband cheats, he’s a dirty bastard. If a wife cheats, poor dear that awful man pushed her into it!

So a man ends up with an enigma on his hands he must deal with: A woman who has absolute moral authority over him. One who knows what is best in all situations, whose will must be followed unconditionally as a Bride of Christ. Yet she is one who can not exercise responsibility for her own decisions and must be protected from herself and from the world. Heaven forbid that the consequences of her actions fall upon her head! Society and the woman herself will take numerous opportunities to remind a man of such things, even if they are not true (for instance the “rape culture”). It is to his own peril if he does not heed those things. This comes out in the idea that men believe women do not have “moral agency” or have “limited moral agency”.

While these things can and will be explored in future posts, talk of marriage often reveals such childish attitudes in women. The article 6 Biggest Regrets Most Women Have From Their Relationship After Marriage is illustrative of such things, perhaps more so since it is reflective of a more traditional culture. Note the opening sentence, which in itself will burn out the Hamsterlator:

As marriage unites a woman with the man of her dreams, it brings a lot of happiness in her life. The beautiful experiences, like being pampered by her husband, having someone to rely on for everything, being praised for anything done by her, and so many more things like these, simply make her feel exhilarated.

One could pick apart each phrase – it’s so loaded with feminist entitlement. But it’s very accurate as to what marriage is in the heart of the average woman, and can explain how women throw marriages away so easily for being “bored and unhaaaaapy”. But the message comes out:

It’s all about her and what she wants.

It’s a very child-like and immature view of marriage, or any kind of commitment. This comes out in the list of post-marriage regrets:

#1. I am not getting enough space
#2. I am not the same person anymore
#3. Wanted some more time to enjoy life
#4. Didn’t want kids so early
#5. Lost touch with friends
#6. Could have given my ex a second chance

Common thread: You mean something is expected of the woman? That it’s not her choice alone anymore in how to live life? That she might have to change or make certain sacrifices in the name of real compromise (and not feminine compromise that comes out in counseling – translated by all to mean “the woman’s way”)? That she might not get to EPL anymore? That she might have to buckle down and raise kids? That her friends might fade away? That she couldn’t take that second ride on the Carousel with that hot alpha?

If anything is underscored when it comes to the idea of responsibilities, sacrifice, or even honoring her vows, it’s how *horrible* it is for a woman to live up to those things. Hence the responsibility shifting to men, and the rights shifting to women. After all, she’s a powerful and independent woman, who should have it all when she wants it! And it’s her husband’s job to provide it for her!

9 thoughts on “Marriage and Child Alpha”

  1. “When you allow a young woman to remain undisciplined and shield her from the consequences of her own wrong actions, rationalizing them to be right, you get a feral woman. When you raise a young woman to feel entitled to have men shoulder all her responsibilities for her, you get a woman that hasn’t grown up. When girls aren’t trained up in the way they should go before God by doting fathers worshiping their daughters, you get the perpetuation of feminism. ”

    Very True. And the article is very immature, you nailed it there.

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  2. Is this article aimed at Indian readers? I ask because the “list of regrets” is derived from a Yahoo India article.

    [B: It’s for general audiences. That’s just where I happened to find the article, and was overtly impressed by the immaturity and lack of forethought expressed regarding what marriage is, so here it is as an example.]

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  3. When you raise a young woman to feel entitled to have men shoulder all her responsibilities for her, you get a woman that hasn’t grown up. When girls aren’t trained up in the way they should go before God by doting fathers worshiping their daughters, you get the perpetuation of feminism.

    This happens, but it doesn’t really happen “much” with the father-daughter relationship. Generally speaking, even with father’s who are raising princesses, they understand how difficult it might be for the boy to have to live with “his” princess. I know I have spent some time instructing my daughter about what she should and what she should NOT expect of her husband. What you are saying here, this is more in line with the single mother-daughter relationship (when there is no father.) The concept of marriage is of a far different meaning in that context. It is not one of a daughter submitting to her husband’s headship. It is *instead* trying to “catch a man” the way an outfielder catches a fly ball in an effort to turn him into a mule for the production of resources solely for her consumption.

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  4. @innocentbystanderboston So much of this really comes from negligence and self-deception on the father’s end more than anything directly due to him. A lot of it is the “princess” thing too, as illustrated by the very first scene in Fireproof (the first feminist meme that appears). Most of the instruction comes from the mother’s end and expectation and how she interacts with her father. The best instruction for a daughter is for the father to not be a supplicant to her mother.

    That said, negligence and denial comes from the father not seeing his wife/daughter as anything but perfect and virginal. The “male mother need” deity, for instance. As an example even 20 years ago, most all fathers could never accept it if they heard their daughters ride the Carousel – in fact they would look to blame the man she willingly opened her legs for instead of dealing with the daughter in the way her actions deserve. And heaven help anyone that tries to break it to him that his daughter is riding the Carousel and not the chaste virginal princess in his mind.

    In other words, women aren’t made to bear responsibility for their actions. In fact they are seen as incapable of it, so they remain as children. Such is female infantilization.

    The New Rape Rules Which Will Infantilise Women and Criminalise Innocent Men (H/T)
    The wider adoption of “Yes Means Yes” as given by England and the rationalizations behind it are quite indicative of such things as well. The woman has the right to open her legs at will, but not the responsibility to deal with the results of it. In a way, I’m surprised that the feminists are retreating to the traditionalist viewpoint of women (the one their movement hated and sought to change) in the effort to overtly subjugate men, but sadly enough it will be quite effective as scant few really oppose feminism, even within the so-called “manosphere”.

    Breitbart does a brilliant job of explaining female infantilization in such an issue (note this line of argument isn’t true if the man is drunk).

    Another article: Men Must Prove A Woman Said Yes Under New Tough Rape Rules

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  5. #6. Could have given my ex a second chance

    Also known as “Alpha Widowhood”. With the exception of “kids so early” all these points apply to US women, even those approaching the Wall.

    Why, it is almost as if AWALT.

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