It’s been a generally accepted tenet over time, even in Scripture, that marriage is the only arena where sex is to take place and be pleasing before God.
The current proclivity of women (even Christian women) to ride the carousel, being an independent and empowered woman who enjoys career, traveling, and other experiences with that hot guy, it is a definite concern of Christian men. To be sure that they select suitable wives for themselves, considering a woman’s sexual partner count is important.
What have you to say about women (and men for that matter) who get saved later on in life, having gone through somewhat salacious existences? Yes, Christ’s redemption is sufficient but he can and does open the doors of marriage for his children, regardless of their past. To imply otherwise would bring the focus on us – where is God’s sovereignty and grace in all of this thinking?
Naturally, her Personal Jesus would not have any worldly consequences befall her or any woman. When a woman is regenerated (her word), her Personal Jesus makes her into a born-again virgin. The concept was introduced in order to justify it in the minds of the women and make her an equivalent to the women who actually have been following God in respect to sexuality. After all, the Christian woman slut and the Christian woman virgin have both been cleansed by the blood and the slut has been completely absolved of her sins and washed white as snow. Therefore, she is just as virgin as the other woman and therefore men are required to treat the slut as if she has never had sex and think of her in that way. TRing confirms it herself:
No. Let’s not idolise physical “purity” – For after having met a few people recently (virgins brought up in Christian homes) I have concluded that indeed it goes much farther beyond virginity.
But life doesn’t work as TRing would have it. TRing would have women be absolved of all of the things they’ve done in the minds of others, both eternally and in the world. In TRing’s world, murderers would be free of jail time, because God “forgave them”! Men are to not mind whether women are virgins or whether they’ve slept with 50 men. Women are to have the exact husbands of their dreams, and any man she deems fit is to immediately give himself to marriage with her, despite whether she is worthy enough for him or not. The act of Christian men following out God’s will in their lives becomes idolatry in the mind of the High Holy Hamster that is her Personal Jesus!
Furthermore, her Personal Jesus distorts the entire message that we write, as well as the Scriptures, by decoupling fornication as any consideration with marriage:
After having read a few times that women who have fornicated cannot go on to get married, I wish someone would give a biblical basis for coming to that conclusion. Fornication does not equal marriage!
What has been said is not that sluts can’t get married, it’s that they should fall on their knees in thankfulness that any man would extend them the grace to be married despite being far from worthy or suitable. In other words, there are a number of men that may not want a woman that’s been around as much as her. But to address the issue: Does partner count matter to God? As it is written:
Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:15-19)
Why would Paul write this way if sex didn’t matter in the ability to unify two into one flesh? The concept repeats itself to the point that it should be clearly understood: Marriage is the only good and godly platform for sex, because it restricts this bonding to a single pair. When a woman bonds to others again and again, only for that bond to be torn, it becomes harder for her to bond to a husband as she properly should. After a number of partners, or just one man who makes her an Alpha Widow, it becomes next to impossible for a woman to function properly as a wife. This is shown well in studies: The risk of divorce is directly correlated to the number of sexual partners the woman has had. So it seems in prohibiting sex outside of the marriage bed, God had things pretty right, didn’t He?
But in the mind of TRing’s Personal Jesus, He is very wrong. By the end of her comment, the truth finally comes out:
Your arguments are not only hurtful but unfounded, expunged solely from your carnal minds. You remind me of the Galatians who insisted on circumcision of the flesh, on your own works and precepts forgetting what Jesus had done for us: the circumcision of the heart.
Given her small back story, it seems the only offense TRing has taken is that being confronted with God’s holy truth regarding fornication makes her feel bad. This is the real sin in her mind: Her Personal Jesus has been affronted. Her High Holy Hamster has been challenged. Naturally, we are carnally minded when we care about such things as honoring God’s truth with a view towards His ultimate holiness. According to TRing’s Personal Jesus, Jesus came to abolish the Law, and not fulfill it. The truth is if we are given grace by the cross for our sins, we need to leave them there.
While a woman who has rode the carousel can be extended grace by a man to be considered as a wife, it really is his choice to do so. The entitlement mentality of Churchian women can not allow men a choice in who they marry. To do otherwise would lay bare to everyone the fact that the Book of Oprah is false. Nothing can invalidate The Narrative, and it must be preserved at all costs.
Honor God, not the Personal Jesus.