I wrote a comment here on a post about the primping that women do. Women put up a lot of effort and worry in terms of their appearance. Taking care of yourself is important. There is no question that a person should be presentable, but the amount of effort, along with the reasons for that effort should be of concern.
1. Cultivate Your Character Not Your Appearance.
It could be stated that in the drive to create a good appearance in women, that many of them have abandoned character entirely. And with no guidance from her parents or society, we get the feral women that are all too common today, both in Churchianity and without. It is not a coincidence that these feral women make poor marriage prospects for men, and many men are responding to the lack of worthy choices in women by simply choosing not to marry at all.
One’s appearance is a reflection of their character. Whether the person is slovenly or has their body torn up by their own hands or even chooses to not age gracefully, this is a reflection of the self-esteem and values of the person involved. The general association of primping and fancy dress with prostitution before the Lord and others (another reflection of character) should not be missed.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
2. Who are you really trying to impress?
It’s one thing to look your best and work on yourself for you (and to glorify God). But it’s quite another to do things to show off to others. All together, most everything in this world is vanity:
Behold, thou hast made my days as an handbreadth; and mine age is as nothing before thee: verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity. Selah. Surely every man walketh in a vain shew: surely they are disquieted in vain: he heapeth up riches, and knoweth not who shall gather them. (Psalm 39:5-6)
As this article relates, women are thoroughly angst-ridden about their appearance:
The other most fascinating thing about these women is that always apply needless worry over issues that they deem to be sacrilegious. While the guys would mostly not even take any notice or on most occasions, even thinks that it looks sexy or appealing. All they continually do is create their own living hell by assuming that there are problems when there are very few at all. It is just astounding how those females apply their own thinking, their minutiae management techniques onto our sex and just assume it to be one hundred percent correct, just because they want it to be so.
The reasons why women are so concerned about their appearance are telling. They come out in the surveys done regarding women and their appearance:
But for women, it’s the support of other females that provides the biggest lift with 81 per cent admitting a compliment from someone of the same gender meant the most to them
Observations like this are repeated again and again. A woman doesn’t usually primp and work on herself for her, but for the favor (and competition) of Team Woman. But again and again, it’s observed that it doesn’t take much in the looks department for men to find women attractive:
If they were really serious, they would find a way to fix it, instead of just wishful thinking. Men are a lot more tolerant about how women look than they are about themselves. Maybe one day, they will eventually come to realise just that bleeding obvious fact.
The reasons why anyone does what they do should be examined with the proper priorities in mind.
But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. (1 Corinthians 10:31)
Who are you really trying to please by doing this? Your first concern should be God who does not look at outward appearance, but at the heart. Your next concern should be the man who is or will be your husband. The Lord doesn’t care about your outward appearance at all and your husband really doesn’t care as much as you do, so by the love of God please stop worrying so much about such things. It ruins your self-esteem and looks to do it, and it ruins your health as well.
3. The sum total of your worth as a woman is not your external appearance.
The sheer effort and pride women take in their external appearance is evident all over:
They create a rod for their own backs. I can remember having a next door neighbour, she had two kids, divorced of course but got the house. She would not step outside the house without the full treatment of war paint, the full works, even when gardening. The weird thing about it all was that she was a bit of a stunner, tall, long hair etc. So there is a major difference between reality and what females assume to be an issue or a problem, as we are all already are well aware.
It seems in many women I’ve run across, they lay their complete value in their external appearance. As the woman in the quote, this make-up and some form of primping regiment is common for every thing. It’s as if all the make-up, hair primping, and other things is this identity. It’s the mask of their entire identity. This goes into looks as well, as many actresses (and women at large) are famous for working themselves to death, in addition to throwing lots of money at plastic surgeons at an attempt to stave off the inevitable aging of their bodies. The only answer that one can come up with is that the appearance of these women (and yes men are starting to do it too in increasing numbers) is their entire identity and they are struggling to keep an appearance that matches their internal self-image.
Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will? Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus? Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour? (Romans 9:19-21)
Trying to remake yourself into your own image is an abomination against God. For whatever reason it may be, a fundamental part of life is to accept yourself as God put you on this earth to be. Wrapping up your self-worth in your identity is vanity. In the end, your appearance will be gone, you will be in the ground, and it will all become irrelevant no matter how much you strive. Vanity of vanities, all things are vanity!
Please God, then please your spouse when it comes to the things you do. Both will accept you for who you are. The rest of the women in the world or other men are irrelevant.